How To Control Thoughts?

Mind is like a monkey, it always wanders here and there. We all struggle to stop our unwanted unnecessary thought process. We live either in past or in future and we forget to live this moment and present.

It is all because we can't control our thoughts and emotions.

So, what we can do for this??

Here I suggest some tips which helps to control our thoughts.

Remember, these tips should be practiced for atleast continuous 21 days. Why I am saying 21 days is, anything, we do or practice for 21 days at the same time becomes habit. so, you will not stop practicing these after 21 days :)

So, before starting, you should give me promise that you will follow these for 21 days in the journey of controlling  thoughts.

1. Pranayamas: The pranayamas help a lot in controlling our thoughts. There are several pranayamam's but I will suggest these two. 

One such is Kapal Bhati Pranayama.  How to do this?

1.    Sit comfortably with your spine erect. Place your hands on the knees, palms open to the sky.

2.    Take a deep breath in.

3.   As you exhale, pull your stomach. Pull your navel in back towards the spine. Do as much as you comfortably can. You may keep your right hand on the stomach to feel the abdominal muscles contract. Pull the navel in.

4.   As you relax the navel and abdomen, the breath flows into your lungs automatically.

5.   Take 20 such breaths to complete one round of Kapal Bhati pranayama.

6.   After completing the round, relax with your eyes closed and observe the sensations in your body.

7.    Do two more rounds of Skull Shining breathing technique (Kapal Bhati pranayama).

8.   The exhalation in Skull Shining Breathing Technique (Kapal Bhati Pranayama) is active and forceful. So just throw out your breath. Don't worry about the inhalation. The moment you relax your abdominal muscles, inhalation will happen naturally. Just keep your awareness on breathing out. 

Note: Always practice pranayama on empty stomach. Avoid practicing this breathing technique if you have a backache due to slip disc, recently went through an abdominal surgery, or are suffering with epilepsy or hernia. Women should not practice Kapal Bhati pranayama during and shortly after pregnancy, as well as during menstruation as it involves vigorous abdominal squeezes. People with hypertension and heart problems should practice this breathing technique under a yoga expert's guidance.

Second is Anulom Vilom Pranayama 

How to do this?

1.   Sit comfortably with your spine erect and shoulders relaxed. Keep a gentle smile on your face.

2.    Place your left hand on the left knee, palms open to the sky or in Chin Mudra (thumb and index finger gently touching at the tips).

3.   Place the tip of the index finger and middle finger of the right hand in between the eyebrows, the ring finger and little finger on the left nostril, and the thumb on the right nostril. We will use the ring finger and little finger to open or close the left nostril and thumb for the right nostril.

4.   Press your thumb down on the right nostril and breathe out gently through the left nostril.

5.   Now breathe in from the left nostril and then press the left nostril gently with the ring finger and little finger. Removing the right thumb from the right nostril, breathe out from the right.

6.   Breathe in from the right nostril and exhale from the left. You have now completed one round of Anulom vilom Pranayama. Continue inhaling and exhaling from alternate nostrils.

7.    Complete 9 such rounds by alternately breathing through both the nostrils. After every exhalation, remember to breathe in from the same nostril from which you exhaled. Keep your eyes closed throughout and continue taking long, deep, smooth breaths without any force or effort.

Practice these 2 pranayamas twice daily. one in the early morning just for 30 minutes and again in the evening for 30 minutes.

If you can't sit down for 30 minutes, no problem, break that into 2,  Sit for 15 minutes and do, again take 2 hours break then do for 15 minutes.

Note: Allocate same time everyday. Do this on same time for 21 days.

2. Reading:  You may wonder how reading helps in stop the mind wandering. Yes, it helps how?? reading good inspirational books or stories or any thing that you like, your favourite topics or books, Reading, makes you focus on one particular thing. Once you start reading, you will automatically get engaged and so mind stops wandering. 

Now, you are reading this article, don't you feel you are already engaged :)

Don't think that you need to spend hours together on reading any book. Just read for 25 minutes. Take break for 10 minutes. And again read for 25 minutes. Repeat it for 3 times and your focus and concentration slowly improves and so mind stops wandering.

Note: Allocate same time everyday. Do this on same time for 21 days.

If you think, you can't sit for 25 minutes also, no problem, just read for 3 minutes. Take 1 minute break and again read for 3 minutes. Repeat this for 5 times.

3. Take a Glass of Water and walk for 15 minutes: Walking stimulates blood circulation entire the body and pumps oxygen to the brain. When brain gets sufficient oxygen it works very efficiently.

Let me know after practicing this and share your experiences with me :) I will help to my best in the journey of controlling thoughts :)

Start TODAY :)

Wanna Maintain Good Relationships For Long Time? Here Is What You Need To Do

Relationships are very sensitive. It should be dealt with utmost care. To share our success or failure, happiness or sadness, we need at least one person in this world.

Here is what you can do:

1.  Never ever lie to your closed ones. Once you lose them, they won’t come back.

2. Be genuine. Genuineness can’t be expected from everyone. It is not that easy to get. There are so many people who fake smile and who fake entire relationship. Don’t ever do that. Especially with your loved ones

3.Give your consoling hand when others are in grief. People need others in difficult times the most rather than in happier times.

4. Have humanity towards other beings. Never forget that you are human being first. If you don’t have humanity, you can’t give friendship. Friendship is the highest form. It is not that everyone can give.

5. Always be frank. If you don’t like something say to that concerned person directly.

6. Never ever gossip about other personal life. They shared to you by trusting you. Don’t break the trust. Once broken it will never be mended up.

7. Don’t feel jealous on the success of others. Appreciate from the core of your heart. Feeling jealous will kill you only not others.

8.  If the mistake is on your side, say “sorry”. Being ego kills relationships faster. Sometimes even if the mistake is not on your side, say sorry if that is true relationship.

9. Never argue with your loved ones. You may win an argument but you can’t win the person.

Tips for Effective Time Management to Achieve Success in Your Career

Everyone wants to achieve success in their careers.

Well, why is that all won’t be succeeded in their  careers?

It is because of inefficient time management. How well you are using your time decides your success in life. Well, here I try to provide some tips for effective time management to achieve success in your career. There are lots of tips for effective time management but here I give the top most.

1.    Maintain Proper Time Table: 

       Daily, before you go to bed, make a  “TO-DO” list for tomorrow and follow it very sincerely. Make it very effective that you give time for your hobbies, ambitions, family members and yourself. Don't go on listing out several tasks. Write only 5, if those are finished then extend, this is because it gives you satisfaction and contentment once the list that is written is finished.

2. Observe Yourself: 

     Observe and analyze yourself that how much time you are spending on unnecessary and unwanted matters. Cut down that time and try not to spend on those again. You may use that time for recreation

3.  Learn to say NO: 

       Dedicate or give time that you truly care about.  You can save a lot of time by doing so.

4. Avoid Internet Distractions:

       Internet is one big distraction these days with the increase of social networking sites like Facebook,whatsapp etc.. While doing work, mute all the notifications, so that you can work with focus which gives better results and enhance the productivity of the work. You can also use kill news app.

5. Don't Over Think: 

     We waste lot of time in thinking about past mistakes or past issues if not we think of future. We forget to live in the present and the enjoy the moment. Brooding over the past eats time and decreases out effective time. How to control your thoughts?